Writer turned philosopher and life coach is what Elizabeth Gilbert seems to have become. I listened to Krista Tippett interview Liz about Choosing Curiosity Over Fear. Browsing online I discovered ten years later Liz is divorced from the love of her life she met in Bali at the end of Eat Pray Love. She has partnered with a woman who has Cancer. Life changes us and our problems so we seek an evolution of solutions. We are all just humans with problems; it’s just that some people are more willing to put some of our problems into public view. Liz commented about the need for respect of privacy about her breakup, that she was living a story she was not going to tell.
Of course there are many teachers I have studied who have had their share of personal problems, Wayne Dyer included. That is important for all followers to remember. These people who seem to lead are just fallible humans and do not have all the answers. That is one reason why I have suspended studying others’ work. They have found their answers, they share them with the world and help a lot of people, but their solutions are not going to work for everyone.
The myth and fallacy behind any belief that seeks to be the number one healing modality in the world is that nothing will work for everyone. Even though we are fundamentally the same, we still have differences that require each of us to find our own solutions. Teachers can help lead us to our own answers, but in the end it is within ourselves that we find what works for us.
My current mission is to be autonomous and go within to find my solutions. Much of what Liz said was stuff I’ve successfully done before, even coached others to do. It’s good stuff, but further down the road I need something more or different. New answers are needed for new problems. Life is not static, problems evolve and change, sometimes even dissipate, but I let go of the belief that anything ever totally disappears from the subconscious mind.
What I seem to be doing here now is simply a conversation with myself. Some would say that demonstrates duality. So what? I am not coaching, philosophizing, or even teaching others, but simply sharing bits of my experience day to day. If it helps someone else, that’s great, but I am certainly not telling anyone else to do this or that. It is their responsibility to find their own answers.
All I can do is my best to find my own solutions, and I don’t do it completely alone. We were not born into a silent vacuum, but into a family, community and society on the planet. We are all in this together, but finding support in those nearby who actually know me personally seems a safer approach.
There is too much lost in the assumptions of well-meaning strangers who call themselves practitioners of any modality. They don’t even know a client before they start working on them to make changes. All they get is a scratch on the surface of what is in the client’s subconscious mind. The information is limited to a sole perception of experiences and beliefs. The practitioner blindly goes about the lucrative business of making changes for people who are desperately and serially seeking solutions from strangers. The practitioner has no clue of the perceptions, patterns, relationships and situations from a higher perspective that includes all the people involved. They only perceive it from the client’s story and then base the therapy on that alone.
Liz has an interesting belief that writing, or most anything including marriage, is about 90% boring and 10% exciting or inspirational. Yes sometimes I do bore myself, but I enjoy writing more than 10%. I might flop it and use the 80/20 rule. I enjoy it 80% of the time and it bores me 20%. Maybe our experience and perception is different because writing was her profession before she wrote Eat Pray Love.
When I saw a photo of Liz wearing a political hat, that was where I knew our ideologies don’t perfectly match. That doesn’t mean I don’t have things I can learn from her. It just means I need to continue to seek and stand in my own truth. It also means maybe she or others could learn from me, but I’m not going to teach, simply share.
So, here I am, writing daily because this is the idea I caught from the ether. It may be similar to others’ but I will manifest it uniquely. Leave out the ego, there is no ego; just practice the creative process of translating experiences and concepts into words in my own way. Not everyone will resonate with it, but some might find helpful suggestions or at least know they are not alone.
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Thank you for sharing your sad but beautiful story of deconstruction. What makes it beautiful and sad is you can see it from the heights of joy and happiness of self-discovery—all the way to the present moment of life. Your story about FasterEFT, Linda, and your realization that the family and ideals you defended were not all that they were to be. I pray for your continual journey into peace. God be with you. I emailed you I while back, but just wanted to respond a year later to let you know how much I appreciate the words of your journey from being an on fire devoted follower, wise and careful observer, then to a humbled soul. I can tell from your writing you still saw Grace and light shine through fallen towers you built for yourself. I to have built towers that fell apart.I’ve gone through my own construction and deconstruction and journey over the past decade–which is why I’m thankful to read yours. You haven’t seemed to lose faith in goodness. I see hope in your words. God bless you
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Yes, I remember you, thanks again for following. I often forget I still have this blog live (until the bill comes LOL). I occasionally think about updating it, but for now, I’m too busy living/creating my life to stop and write about it. A lot has changed with me. I’m healing more and doing it my way. It’s a very powerful experience and takes a lot of dedication to purpose, time and patience. Even though my intention and primary purpose is to heal myself, it is something that will likely help others heal or become empowered to create a divine life. It’s very powerful. When I’m ready, I might look for an appropriate place online to share it. So much has changed online, that I’m not sure that what I’ve used in the past is still the best option.
If you’re interested, then start by reading Dr. Joe Dispenza’s book, You Are The Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter. I’m not using his meditations though, I’m creating my own that are a spinoff from a medical intuitive M.D. in B.C. blended with my personal experiences and studies of other masters since 2001.
Blessings to you, too.
Love & Peace, Grace