Writer turned philosopher and life coach is what Elizabeth Gilbert seems to have become. I listened to Krista Tippett interview Liz about Choosing Curiosity Over Fear. Browsing online I discovered ten years later Liz is divorced from the love of her life she met in Bali at the end of Eat Pray Love. She has partnered with a woman who has Cancer. Life changes us and our problems so we seek an evolution of solutions. We are all just humans with problems; it’s just that some people are more willing to put some of our problems into public view. Liz commented about the need for respect of privacy about her breakup, that she was living a story she was not going to tell.
Of course there are many teachers I have studied who have had their share of personal problems, Wayne Dyer included. That is important for all followers to remember. These people who seem to lead are just fallible humans and do not have all the answers. That is one reason why I have suspended studying others’ work. They have found their answers, they share them with the world and help a lot of people, but their solutions are not going to work for everyone.
The myth and fallacy behind any belief that seeks to be the number one healing modality in the world is that nothing will work for everyone. Even though we are fundamentally the same, we still have differences that require each of us to find our own solutions. Teachers can help lead us to our own answers, but in the end it is within ourselves that we find what works for us.
My current mission is to be autonomous and go within to find my solutions. Much of what Liz said was stuff I’ve successfully done before, even coached others to do. It’s good stuff, but further down the road I need something more or different. New answers are needed for new problems. Life is not static, problems evolve and change, sometimes even dissipate, but I let go of the belief that anything ever totally disappears from the subconscious mind.
What I seem to be doing here now is simply a conversation with myself. Some would say that demonstrates duality. So what? I am not coaching, philosophizing, or even teaching others, but simply sharing bits of my experience day to day. If it helps someone else, that’s great, but I am certainly not telling anyone else to do this or that. It is their responsibility to find their own answers.
All I can do is my best to find my own solutions, and I don’t do it completely alone. We were not born into a silent vacuum, but into a family, community and society on the planet. We are all in this together, but finding support in those nearby who actually know me personally seems a safer approach.
There is too much lost in the assumptions of well-meaning strangers who call themselves practitioners of any modality. They don’t even know a client before they start working on them to make changes. All they get is a scratch on the surface of what is in the client’s subconscious mind. The information is limited to a sole perception of experiences and beliefs. The practitioner blindly goes about the lucrative business of making changes for people who are desperately and serially seeking solutions from strangers. The practitioner has no clue of the perceptions, patterns, relationships and situations from a higher perspective that includes all the people involved. They only perceive it from the client’s story and then base the therapy on that alone.
Liz has an interesting belief that writing, or most anything including marriage, is about 90% boring and 10% exciting or inspirational. Yes sometimes I do bore myself, but I enjoy writing more than 10%. I might flop it and use the 80/20 rule. I enjoy it 80% of the time and it bores me 20%. Maybe our experience and perception is different because writing was her profession before she wrote Eat Pray Love.
When I saw a photo of Liz wearing a political hat, that was where I knew our ideologies don’t perfectly match. That doesn’t mean I don’t have things I can learn from her. It just means I need to continue to seek and stand in my own truth. It also means maybe she or others could learn from me, but I’m not going to teach, simply share.
So, here I am, writing daily because this is the idea I caught from the ether. It may be similar to others’ but I will manifest it uniquely. Leave out the ego, there is no ego; just practice the creative process of translating experiences and concepts into words in my own way. Not everyone will resonate with it, but some might find helpful suggestions or at least know they are not alone.
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