Q. Thank you Grace for your video and your sincere and true way of coming across to us. I want to start tapping regularly. Can you please guide me as to how many times I should_ tap at a stretch? And should I focus on one thing at a time because as I am tapping on one thing, another thing pops up in my mind. Sometimes I want to continue tapping and not stop. I feel I might go insane or get addicted to tapping. Don’t know what to do. I need to heal a lot of issues inside of me. I also noticed that I start crying as I am tapping. Is that okay? —Helen A.
A. Dear Helen,
I am honored by your affirmations and I’m glad you appreciate my videos. Thanks for watching. If you watch videos 7, 28 & 46 you will notice there are many ways to approach tapping as a daily coping skill. However, if you want to do deep, long-lasting healing, you must go back into your past emotional traumas, from birth through childhood and your whole life, to address and release the negative emotional aspects of each one. For this deeper healing, I suggest one or two hour sessions per week, or as often as possible. If I can’t sleep, I sometimes lie in bed and tap longer.
Your unconscious may present a different memory before you completely clear the one you are working on. When that happens, make a note of the memory and push it to the side while you go back and finish the one you started. Then pull back in the one from the side and heal it completely. There may be some exceptions to this rule. If the memory that pops up is stronger and happened before the one you are on, it may be an emotional reference for the one you started with. Then it is best to go to the oldest, strongest memory and clear it. Then go back to the one you started with.
The most powerful healing comes with crying as you tap, as long as you are releasing the emotions you are crying about. Robert Smith says, “Big tears mean big changes.” If you get too deep into crying and you are not releasing it but going deeper into the negative emotions, then you need to pull yourself out into the present moment with some kind of distraction. You must remember that the memory is not real, it is not happening now. It is all made up in your mind now and you are creating it. It is a trance, but you feel as if it is real, because of your body’s reaction to the thoughts and emotions. You must tap it to zero and flip it to a positive. If you don’t, you still have supporting references for the problem and it will still have power over you. That’s why Robert says, “Tap till it’s gone or till you pass out and when you wake up it will be a new world for you.”
I don’t believe it is possible to become addicted to tapping. Tap on your fears of going insane and becoming addicted to tapping. Tap on your resistance to tapping. Aim at however you know you have these fears and whatever memories may support them. It is a powerful coping skill. In the beginning you will naturally need to tap more, because there is so much past emotional baggage to clear up. As you clear more of it away, you will find that you naturally don’t tap as much, because you are not getting triggered as often. You have healed a lot. Life will always present new challenges and relationships, so you will continue to use FasterEFT as a highly effective coping skill the rest of your life, even on your deathbed.
Thank you for your questions. I hope this helps. I’m sure there are many others who have the same ones. Keep me posted on your progress.
Love & Peace, Grace
What kind of phrases do we normally have to use ….just "I release and let go" or "Even though I have this feeling, I completely and deeply love and accept myself"….Sometimes I use the phrases like I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, Thank you. I am suffering from numbness/tingling in my left arm and fingers of my left hand since past 5 days or so. I keep tapping, but it is still there. Can you please help me. Thanks.
Dear Hoor,You can say whatever you want if it enables you to release it, but "Let it go" is good enough. I rarely use the, "Even though…" phrase. The phrase "I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, Thank you" is very good. The main key is to AIM at however you know you have the problem, if it is a feeling, emotion, sensation in your body, a picture in your mind, sounds, words, however you internally represent the past experience now. Make that as strong as you can, then tap and release it until it is zero. Step into a happy memory and feel all those good feelings to flip it to a positive. Also, use that protocol with the information below.If you do not yet have it, I suggest you buy “Heal Your Body” by Louise L. Hay. It is a very helpful guide for healing. Some of her suggestions are below: Legend: “•” = probable cause (tap this out), “+” = affirmations (tap this in)Left Side of Body:• Represents receptivity, taking in, feminine energy, women, the mother.+ My feminine energy is beautifully balanced.Numbness:• Withholding love and consideration. Going dead mentally.+ I share my feelings and my love. I respond to love in everyone.Arm: • Represents the capacity and ability to hold the experiences of life.+ I lovingly hold and embrace my experiences with ease and with joy.Fingers:• Represents the details of life.+ I am peaceful with the details of lifeLouise breaks it down to specific fingers, so use her book for more details.I hope that helps. Be persistent and you will heal.Love & Peace, Grace